Voice
Whether your honest thoughts, feelings, and disagreements have room in the relationship.
Relationship Assessment
Are You Shrinking to Make Your Relationship Work?
Discover whether your relationship is making room for your voice, your needs, your purpose, and the person God created you to be.
You can love someone deeply and still slowly lose pieces of yourself.
Maybe you've become quieter to keep the peace.
Maybe their dreams always seem to come first.
Maybe you're the encourager, defender, supporter, and cheerleader—but you've started wondering who is doing those things for you.
Or maybe nothing feels dramatically “wrong.” You've simply realized that somewhere along the way, there seems to be less and less room for you.
Take the Assessment
Approximately 5 minutes • Private reflection • No judgment
- Approximately 5 minutes
- Private reflection
- No judgment
- Dating, engaged, or married
Because becoming “we” shouldn't require losing “me.” Becoming one should never require becoming less.
What We'll Reflect On
Five areas of your relationship: Voice. Identity. Reciprocity. Honor. Purpose.
Twenty-five short statements across the five areas where room for you is either protected or quietly given away. Healthy love isn't hyper-independence — it's two people who sacrifice for one another while still making room for both.
Identity
Whether the person you are — your interests, friendships, and personality — is still recognizable.
Reciprocity
Whether the support and sacrifice you give is generally returned.
Honor
Whether you are spoken to, spoken about, and treated in ways that leave you feeling cherished.
Purpose
Whether both people have room to grow into their God-given calling.
The Heart Of It
Healthy relationships are interdependent — two people who consider one another, sacrifice for one another, and build a shared life while still making room for the gifts, voice, needs, and God-given purpose of both people.
Take the AssessmentThis assessment is designed for personal reflection and educational purposes. It is not a clinical, psychological, counseling, or diagnostic assessment and cannot determine whether a relationship is healthy, unhealthy, or abusive. Relationships are complex, and a score cannot capture the full context of your experience. If you are experiencing fear, threats, coercion, controlling behavior, emotional abuse, physical violence, sexual violence, or concerns about your safety, consider speaking with a qualified professional or contacting an appropriate domestic violence resource.